Why do most people marry the wrong person?

“Mother! Kyle just broke up with me!” wailed the blond teenager as she cried hysterically and burrowed herself into her mother’s arms.

“Anastasia, my poor girl. What happened?” cooed her mother sympathetically as she gently ran her slender fingers through her daughter’s long wavy hair.

“He just left! We have been dating for 3 weeks. And then out of nowhere, he’s gone! The only thing I got from him is a text that reads, “It’s over’. I don’t know why this keeps happening to me!” cried Anastasia. “Is there something wrong with me?”

“There is nothing wrong with you! You deserve so much better! All these boys who keep coming in and out of your life don’t deserve you!” pouted her mother indignantly as she gentle wiped away the tears that streamed down her daughter’s face.

Just then, Anastasia’s phone rang. Her heart skipped a beat at the possibility that it was Kyle calling. But she was immediately disappointed when she realized it was only her dad.

After reluctantly picking up and explaining the situation to him, her father was gradually able to comfort her. He showered her with kisses and e-transferred her money for ‘retail therapy’.

“Daddy, you are the best! I hope one day I can marry someone like you!” exclaimed Anastasia sweetly. As she was about to hang up, her mother quickly snatched the phone out of her hand.

And in a cool and stern voice, she said, “Frank! It has been three months and I haven’t heard from you! Are you still in Dubai? When are you coming home?”

“Gosh! I don’t know Verta! These Saudi oil executives are taking forever to get back to me on this deal.” groaned Frank with a tinge of annoyance in his voice. “Look I am on my way to another meeting. I got to go!”

But before Verta was able finish yelling, “You are never here!”, the line was already dead.

As those unheard words echoed down her empty granite hallway, she realized they were the very same words that haunted her daughter’s long trail of failed relationships as well.

Most people don’t usually end up dating or marrying the people who are inherently best for us. Rather we are always unconsciously drawn to people who feel most familiar to us instead.

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Samuel Hong

Samuel Hong

I believe writing is a form of art. It shouldn’t just enrich the mind, but it should also touch the heart and your soul as well. #mentalhealth #relationships