Why are some people so controlling and distrusting of others?
Her black stilettos struck the ground furiously with the sound of a thousand staccatos. As the young lady frantically raced through the neon-lit streets, she fumbled her way through the crowds that overflowed out of the boisterous bars and clubs. Every few seconds that raced by, she would desperately steal a glance over her shoulder.
Just as she was about to round the corner, a hand shot out from the midst of the crowd and clamped tightly around her delicate thin wrists. Reflexively, she slapping her other hand over the attacker’s knuckles. And then she expertly rotated her whole body to twist the attacker’s arm behind his back. Finally, she thrusted him helplessly to the ground.
Before she could dash back into the sea of bodies, another attacker pounced upon her. As he began to mercilessly choke her with the crook of his elbow, she quickly grabbed his forearm with both her hands. As she pulled down with all of her weight, she pivoted her knees behind the attacker’s legs. With all the strength she could muster, she managed to collapse the attacker flat on his back.
Instantly she ripped off his mask and held the heel of her stiletto within striking distance of the his terrified face. At the very moment, she let out a gasp of shocked recognition. For she was staring straight into the eyes of one of her father’s most trusted bodyguards.
As her tired and frail father watched and listened attentively from the safety of his guard’s concealed body camera, he heard her desperately interrogate the man. She questioned why her father never trusted her nor let her live her own life. And even though she couldn’t hear him respond, he silently whispered that he himself was always being watched.
In that moment, he glanced wearily at the corner surveillance camera which recorded his every action. He knew his supervisor was on the other side and was now attentively watching his every move.
The ability to trust and let go of control, can only come from when we first experience it ourselves. Only then, do we feel the confidence to tip the first domino and allow the cascading effect of trust to be passed down to all the other relationships in our lives.
